Understand the human male

I hope to answer some common questions that women have about men. How they think and why they do the things they do.

You must understand that every man is different. These differences are developed by the way they were raised, their beliefs, perception, basic needs and his chemistry. But every man has a few things in common.

Do guys always want sex and why is sex so important to them?

To answer these questions, you need to understand what effects his desire for sex and his mindset. There are two main areas that effect a mans need or desire for sex. They are his prostate and instinct. Hormones play a role. But they effect his prostate which effects the rest of him.

Meet the prostate

The prostate has a major influence on how a man thinks. Most guys will tell you that before and during sex, he has a sexual mindset and his needs and desires are focused primarily sexually. But after sex, his mindset, needs and desires change. The man can sleep better or focus on other tasks more clearly.

When his prostate is loaded with semen. The prostate sends signals to the brain that triggers his need and desire to breed.

Think of his mind like a TV. After sex the prostate has little or no semen and therefor sends no signals to the brain. At this point his mind is clear and he can focus on normal tasks without distraction. But as the prostate builds up with semen. The prostate starts to send its own signals to the brain. After awhile the signals become so loud that he has the sexual need flashing on all over the screen. Once he is relieved of his semen the static and sexual need images are gone or at least diminished and his mindset has changed back to clarity.

You can also think of the prostate like your bladder. When empty, you can easily focus on other tasks. But when it fills. Your bladder becomes a distraction. After a while, you can not focus on anything else but to relieve your urinary urges. The male prostate works vary similar.

Some guys switch back to a sexual states right a way with in moments (usually teens and young adults) while other may take a few hours or even days. Each man is different with how long it takes and it also depends on how much semen he has released.

Why do guys show off and why do they lie?

In the animal kingdom, males compete for a mate. The gorilla beats his chest, the peacock with his tail feathers and so on. Who ever puts on the best show and gets girl. People are no different. Guys will show off there talents to show they are better than the rest. Most will lie when they have little to offer or to show, or maybe they simply do not know how to show there talents.

Some talents are psychological. Here the man tells women what she wants to hear. He may have nothing to offer her. Remember, instinctively he is trying to attract a mate and will use any trick that works for him.

Some have big plans for there future but have nothing to show for it. So he may attempt to attract her by letting her fantasize his ideas and dream for there future. It doesn't mean he's lying. If he could make that dream come true, he would. But this also lets him find someone who has the same taste and dreams.

But then there are those use this tactic only for the purpose of attraction. He knows he may have nothing to offer her. But he will do his best to convince her to be his.

Most guys don't want to lie. They want to be honest. But they often find the only way to get his girl is to tell her what she wants to hear. Except the truth.

Why do some guys like to give oral sex?

Oral sex is instinctive in nature. Most males in the animal kingdom will stimulate the female by licking her genitals. It encourages her to want to bread and get her genitals ready for penetration. The same holds true with humans. Most guys have this animal instinct in them. As he gets her going, his drive is also being boosted.

Not every guy follows this instinct. Personality, taste or experience also plays a role. A lot of guys are simply not in to it. They become disgusted with the thought of licking were someone pee's or even the smell can turn him off.

Why do guys cheat?

Most don't want to cheat. But there are a couple things that tempt a man to cheat. They are instinct and needs.

Instinct

This is were some will disagree. Primarily for religious reasons. So I will clear this up first. The bible says that animals were made before man. Therefor you could say that God was making the basic blueprint for man. Man and animals are similar. We all have a heart, lungs, intestines, skin and so on. We also have some of their basic instincts.

In the animal world, the male is compelled to spread his seed. The more females, the more chances for his genes to survive. For example. If he has three females and genetically one was not compatible. He may not have any offspring or his offspring may not survive from that one female. The second one may not be able to have offspring. And so he now has a chance with the third, forth and so on. The stronger his offspring, the grater his chances of passing on his genes.

In the human world, the man has those same instinctive compulsions. This is why that In many countries and religions. The man will have several wives or even concubines.

Needs

Remember when I spoke about his prostate. He is most vulnerable to temptation when his prostate is full. If he is not able to relieve his prostate. He may be tempted to relieve it in places you would not expect.

From the movie American Pie.

Or if the right woman comes along with the right signal and tempts him. His instinctive drive may overpower his common sense.

If his emotional needs are not met. This can lead to depression and anxiety. This encourages him to be tempted to look else ware to fulfill his needs.

Why are guys attracted to breasts and why do guys like them so much?

To answer this, we must first understand his basic needs and his past.

During the first year or so we are placed on the breasts. Not only for nourishment but also for comfort. This stays with us throughout our lives.

As he gets older, he is taught that a man is not suppose to cry. He is suppose to be strong and fearless. A woman wants a protector. A man who can provide for her basic needs. He has been taught to hide or suppress his basic emotional needs.

As we become sexually mature and start looking for a woman. One of the first things most of us notice is the woman's breast. You could say, that for the first few seconds our inner child comes out seeing the breast as that place of safety, comfort, nurturing and acceptance. A place to satisfy those basic needs. Then the man resurfaces and sees the woman as his potential mate.

Most women will agree that for most guys who are in to breasts. The inner child does not submerge when a woman is present. Both the man and his inner child compete for the woman's attention. The man for his sexual drive and the inner child for that place of safety, comfort and nurturing it once had and still longs for.

When he is not aloud on the breasts. He may feel betrayed or rejected. For most guys young and old, the breasts represents his place of comfort, a place to unwind and feel acceptance.

Guys are not the only ones who find breasts comforting. Some women do to, maybe for similar or the same reasons.

Some couples form a intimately bonding relationship that lead to a long vary satisfying relationship called ANR.

See: The ANR truth and Christian ANR

Do guys always see breasts as sexual?

Surprisingly no. Most guys have a strong attraction for them but they can't tell you why. It is usually women that make the assumption that a man see breasts as sexual. And there for the reason why it is mostly women that are against breastfeeding in public.

I have seen three times where women had asked the mothers to take it else ware and once when a man asked. But the man was encouraged by his wife to say something.

Most guys can become aroused with breasts. But arousal does not mean it is sexual. A man can become aroused when he gets a new car or wins the lottery. It's often his emotional state that often triggers arousal. It's like a flag that says I'm happy, excited, feeling helpless or powerful. And of course a loaded prostate.

Do boys ever grow up?

Most women will tell you No. I will say, it depends on what you mean by growing up. And what you expect. Women often have a fairy tale perception of what a man is supposed to be and what his needs and desires are. They often want to see them like fearless warriors. The protectors, providers and leaders. Always ready for sex.

But what she sees is a boy who is showing off his talents trying to get her attention. A boy with bigger toys. A boy who pouts when he doesn't get his way or when his needs are not met. His attraction for the breasts.

If you think about it. He does grow up. Its the false perception of what a man is that doesn't let you see it. It is your perception that determines what a grown man is suppose to be. In most cases, you will be disappointed by your expectations. So don't follow old or false expectations and you won't be disappointed.

Men are often protectors, providers, leaders and almost always ready for sex. As long as you allow them to be and give them the right reasons to be.

By Charles Shockley











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